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But the dictates are famous: never approach a man, let him come to you; never suggest a date; don't be the one to initiate or perpetuate conversation or contact; and never, ever agree to a date that is less than 24 hours away."It's more complicated and confusing now," says Fein, "and women need a new book to navigate the unchartered dating territory."That territory includes texting, email, instant messaging, online dating, Facebook and Twitter.
Before these, there was just the telephone, which you invariably watched until it rang. Well, I did, but I already told you I wasn't a Rules girl.
If this sort of backwards thinking makes you want to throw the book across the room, I don’t blame you.
However, Fein and Schneider do come up with some worthwhile nuggets of advice, particularly when it comes to interacting with men online and through texting.
Plenty of us have been waiting to find that out for years.
The New Rules might not explain the great mystery, but they offer certain coping strategies in the meantime.
Any communication you make independently of that is an initiation of contact that would never have happened were it left up to him.
It's not good or bad, it just doesn't work."Such is the crisis that constant contact has caused in our consciousness that Fein and Schneider have also created a chart in the new book that will tell you how long to wait before you text a man back (hint: the lag period increases, the older and supposedly wiser you are, and leave at least four hours before replying to man's initial text, whatever your age)."Don't text him back immediately… Never double text," they suggest."If you want more from a guy, give less."It's good advice, written in the vein of now-famous post-Rules guides Why Men Love Bitches and He's Just Not That Into You; each is predicated on creating an epiphany moment in women, when they suddenly understand what it is that men want or need from them.Much of it makes sense – "Don't answer texts or anything else after midnight"; "Don't get wasted on dates"; "Don't relocate because of a guy" – while many chapters, such as "Don't talk too much in the first few weeks", might make the modern woman recoil.The central premise of the Rules is that if a man likes you, he will approach you. "Always waiting for the guy to initiate contact is annoying to most men," says Harold, 35."At some point you need to let him know you're interested by reaching out.
The Rules: Time-tested secrets for capturing the heart of Mr.